Ran upon this nice article and thought I would share it on my blog. It deals with the age old questions about SEX. As everyone is different some of you may not agree with a lot of the points raised. I have an issue or two with a few but overall it is a good read.
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Despite living in the age of technology where the information of our race is freely available on the internet, there are still a lot of misinterpretations about sex. In this article, we’ll spend the next few minutes debunking sex myths.
1. Size matters
No, folks, size does not matter. It has been proven time and time again that size really doesn’t matter. In fact, it’s been shown that some women actually wish their partners were shorter or thinner! According to Debby Herbenick, men and women enjoy sex more when they’re psychologically into each other regardless of size.
2. Aphrodisiacs don’t exist
There is a multimillion dollar industry around selling people foods, drinks, concoctions, potions, lotions, pills, etc that claim to increase your sex drive. That multimillion dollar industry is full of it. There is no such thing as an aphrodisiac and there is no way drinking that weird, expensive smoothie is going to make your sex drive better. It’s just not happening.
3. Old people do actually have lots of sex
If you’re worried about getting it on when you’re older, don’t be. This chart (pictured above) shows that old people have sex quite a bit. Studies have also shown that more than 50% of people between the ages of 57 and 75 have engaged in oral sex at least once in the past year. Don’t worry, your golden years will be actually golden.
4. Pulling out is about as effective as condoms
I didn’t even believe this one when I first read it. According to a well publicized study, condoms have a 98% success rate when used perfectly. That same study concluded that pulling out had a 96% success rate when used perfectly. Since we are a world of humans and humans make mistakes, let’s assume they don’t get used perfectly. Pulling out drops to 82% when used imperfectly. Condoms? 83%. That means all you’re really doing when you put on that condom is preventing STDs, which means you should still totally use them.
5. The first time women have sex, it doesn’t hurt because of the hymen
This is a widely misunderstood rumor even among women. In reality, the first time being painful has nothing to do with the breaking of the hymen because, in most cases, the hymen is already broken through things like athletics, menstruation, self-exploration, and other things. There are a lot of rumors but the underlying commonality is this: when women are going through the anxiety of their first time and men are doing it wrong (which we often are thanks to the porn industry), it interferes with the woman’s ability to create natural lubrication. The resulting friction is what is actually causing pain.
6. Men are not intimidated by vibrators
Nope, not even a little bit. In fact, in most cases, men hope that you’ll pull out your toy to join in the fun. Not necessarily for use on us but for use on you. Vibrators have the advantage of being thrust by hand which takes way less effort than thrusting with a pelvis and they also vibrate. It’s like a cheat code for the female orgasm. If we can’t get it done or we’re not in the mood that night, the vibrator can be a life saver. That means it’s totally cool to pull it out and play with it. Just don’t say things like, “it feels so much better than you do.” That’s just mean spirited and cruel.
7. The g-spot does, in fact, exist
Yes, the elusive erogenous zone long thought to be a made up fairy tale is actually real. Researchers have found that the g-spot is an area of denser tissue between the vaginal wall and the urethra. The spot varies in placement from person to person but it is definitely there. We’ll leave how to find it up to the imagination.
8. Men can actually have multiple orgasms
As if our risk for death via heart attack wasn’t already high enough, it has been proven that men can actually have multiple orgasms. The key is that men often associate ejaculation with climax and that’s wrong. Men can only ejaculate once but if you come really close and back off at the right moment, you can actually get to climax without actually ejaculating. Then it’s a matter of calming down for a minute or so, then going back at it.
9. Women do, in fact, watch porn
Don’t try to deny it ladies. Researchers have proven that erotic images and video can stimulate sexual desire in women just as effectively as men so it’s just as likely that women derive enjoyment from pornography as men do.
10. Vaginal intercourse is not always the best way to bring a female to orgasm
Human sexuality is a widely unexplored concept for most people. You could have three kids and been married for 20 years and still not found what really makes you tick in the bedroom. There are fetishes, wires that get crossed (one woman out there can make herself orgasm by brushing her teeth), and various other stimuli that can affect what makes a woman truly enjoy herself. it has been widely publicized that clitoral stimulation is the best answer for what a woman really wants but even then that’s not a sure thing. Sexuality is like a fingerprint or a snowflake. Everyone has slightly different tastes and you can’t use the same moves on all women and expect them to work.
Men and women have been trying to figure out the best ways to have sex for enjoyment for thousands of years now. Thankfully, the point is to have kids so as long as you can accomplish that you’re doing sex right on a biological level. However, with a little exploring, a little research, and a little bit of adventurous spirit, you can find what works for you and your partner and everyone can, in fact, go home a winner.
From the site: LifeHack.