I was in the gym today having a casual discussion with a friend about some common interest in entertainment. The discussion centered around a scenario that some people find it difficult to manage especially when the new manager was the buddy of the same people he is managing just a week ago.
The problem the new manager has is effecting the transition. from being a member of the team to now being a leader of the team. That transition comes with a lot of sacrifice that he is not ready to give up. If you read all the management books in the world they will all tell you about the pros and cons of this scenario. It is well documented. But what the books or professors fail to tell the student is that management is a lifestyle. Some people may disagree but when you think about it look at all the leaders in the world, past and present and see what is the common trait in all of them. The answer – A lifestyle.
The leader or manager can party with the team, they can have a drink with the boys. They can go shopping with the girls. It is encouraged. What is not allowed is the leader cannot be one of them. He , and I am using the collective HE, has to know that he is the leader so whilst he can go shopping or drinking he cannot get drunk. He cannot spend all his money and be broke. He has to be sober and sane enough to say to the team enough is enough, time to go and go he must. This is the lifestyle i am talking about. It is showing your team how disciplined you are despite the distractions of the drinking , partying and shopping.
To have discipline is to create a lifestyle of strong mental fortitude. A lifestyle that will always come to manifest itself when the team is looking at you. They are looking to you for direction. If your lifestyle is one of party, wild abandonment and carefree then you are not managing the team. You are merely one of the boys and the team will look for a leader who has a lifestyle that they can emulate and follow. A leader cannot hide.
So this is my first blog for the website. Management is a lifestyle. I invite you to comment on this topic.